Opposition
睽K'uei (Wade-Giles) · kuí(pinyin)
離 · Li, Fire, over 兌 · Tui,Lake.
misunderstanding · tension · diversity · reconciliation · polarity
In the constellation
Two things that belong in one house are pulling in opposite directions — flame rising, water seeping down. Estrangement of this kind is not enmity; it is divergence, wills aimed differently, and it makes any large joint undertaking impossible for now. Pressing for agreement only widens the split, the way chasing a runaway horse drives it farther off. What still works is small: modest matters, gradual effects, points of contact kept open without demanding that they mean more than they do. And there is a dignity available inside the divergence. Fire and water touch without becoming each other; a person can keep company without dissolving into it. Opposition even has its uses — it is how things get distinguished at all, how categories and persons keep their edges. What is genuinely yours, estranged through some misunderstanding, tends to come back on its own once nobody is pulling on the rope.
A note in this site’s voice; the translation follows.
The two trigrams
above LI THE CLINGING, FLAME · below TUI THE JOYOUS, LAKE
The chapter
The Judgment
OPPOSITION. In small matters, good fortune.
When people live in opposition and estrangement they cannot carry out a great undertaking in common; their points of view diverge too widely. In such circumstances one should above all not proceed brusquely, for that would only increase the existing opposition; instead, one should limit oneself to producing gradual effects in small matters. Here success can still be expected, because the situation is such that the opposition does not preclude all agreement. In general, opposition appears as an obstruction, but when it represents polarity within a comprehensive whole, it has also its useful and important functions. The oppositions of heaven and earth, spirit and nature, man and woman, when reconciled, bring about the creation and reproduction of life. In the world of visible things, the principle of opposites makes possible the differentiation by categories through which order is brought into the world.
The Image
Above, fire; below. The lake.
The image of OPPOSITION.
Thus amid all fellowship
The superior man retains his individuality.
The two elements, fire and water, never mingle but even when in contact retain their own natures. So the sutured man is never led into baseness or vulgarity through intercourse or community of interests with persons of another sort; regardless of all commingling, he will always preserve his individuality.
The Lines
Nine at the beginning means:
Remorse disappears.
If you lose your horse, do not run after it;
It will come back of its own accord.
When you see evil people,
Guard yourself against mistakes.Even in times when oppositions prevail, mistakes can be avoided, so that remorse disappears. When opposition begins to manifest itself, a man must not try to bring about unity by force, for by so doing he would only achieve the contrary, just as a horse goes farther and farther away if one runs after it. It it is one's won horse, one can safely let it go; it will come back of its own accord. So too when someone who belongs with us is momentarily estranged because of a misunderstanding, he will return of his own accord if we leave matters to him. One the other hand, it is well to be cautious when evil men who do not belong with us force themselves upon us, again as the result of a misunderstanding. Here the important thing is to avoid mistakes. We must not try to shake off these evil men by force; this would give rise to real hostility. We must simply endure them. They will eventually withdraw of their own accord.
This line moving leads to 64 Before Completion
Nine in the second place means:
One meets his lord in a narrow street.
No blame.As a result of misunderstandings, it has become impossible for people who by nature belong together to meet in the correct way. This being so, an accidental meeting under informal circumstances may serve the purpose, provided there is an inner affinity between them.
This line moving leads to 21 Biting Through
Six in the third place means:
One sees the wagon dragged back,
The oxen halted,
A man's hair and nose cut off.
Not a good beginning, but a good end.Often it seems tot a man as though everything were conspiring against him. He sees himself checked and hindered in his progress, insulted and dishonored. However, he must not let himself be misled; despite this opposition, he must cleave to the man with whom he knows he belongs. Thus, notwithstanding the bad beginning, the matter will end well.
This line moving leads to 14 Possession in Great Measure
Nine in the fourth place means:
Isolated through opposition,
One meets a like-minded man
With whom one can associate in good faith.
Despite the danger, no blame.If a man finds himself in a company of people from whom he is separated by an inner opposition, he becomes isolated. But if in such a situation a man meets someone who fundamentally by the very law of his being, is kin to him, and whom he can trust completely, he overcomes all the dangers of isolation. His will achieves its aim, and he becomes free of faults.
This line moving leads to 41 Decrease
Six in the fifth place means:
Remorse disappears.
The companion bits his way through the wrappings.
If one goes to him,
How could it be a mistake?Coming upon a sincere man, one fails to recognize him at first because of the general estrangement. However, he bites his way through the wrappings that are causing the separation. When such a companion thus reveals himself in his true character, it is one's duty to go to meet him and to work with him.
This line moving leads to 10 Treading
Nine at the top means:
Isolated through opposition,
One sees one's companion as a pig covered with dirt,
As a wagon full of devils.
First one draws a bow against him,
Then one lays the bow aside.
He is not a robber; he will woo at the right time.
As one goes, rain falls; then good fortune comes.Here the isolation is due to misunderstanding; it is brought about not by outer circumstances but by inner conditions. A man misjudges his best friends, taking them to be as unclean as a dirty pig in and as dangerous as a wagon full of devils. He adopts an attitude of defense. But in the end, realizing his mistake, he lays aside the bow, perceiving that the other is approaching with the best intentions for the purpose of close union. Thus the tension is relieved. The union resolves the tension, just as falling rain relieves the sultriness preceding a thunderstorm. All goes well, for just when opposition reaches its climax it changes over to its antithesis.
This line moving leads to 54 The Marrying Maiden
Structural relatives
- King Wen pair37 The FamilyThe other half of its couplet in the received sequence.
- Inverse · zong gua 綜卦37 The FamilyThe same figure turned upside down — the situation seen from the other side.
- Opposite · cuo gua 錯卦39 ObstructionEvery line exchanged for its contrary.
- Nuclear · hu gua 互卦63 After CompletionThe figure hidden in the four inner lines — the situation inside the situation.

This hexagram is composed of the trigram Li above, i.e., flame, which burns upward, and Tui below, i.e., the lake, which seeps downward. These two movements are indirect contrast. Furthermore, LI is the second daughter and Tui the youngest daughter, and although they live in the same house they belong to different men; hence their wills are not the same but are divergently directed.